In the last two weeks, we have been looking at tips for wives. It’s been both great and wonderful. I have received several words from people. It’s been encouraging though. Thank you all for the words. The utmost reason for putting them up is that those who read might transform their home with these tips through the help of the Holy Spirit. Take a look at the hard truths about marriage.
Before we look into the tips for men, I am inspired to go write a few things about marriage generally. Well, I believe this may help those preparing to go into it. Marriage requires that you prepare your mind towards reality. When reality hits, you may think you have been set up. Marriage is whatever you think it is. If you think it is great, then it will be.
Marriage Is Huge Responsibility
Truth be told, marriage is a huge responsibility. Don’t be deceived by feelings and movies that show you otherwise. It is the responsibility of both husband and wife to make the marriage work. You will go through seasons that will require sacrifice. Sometimes, it affects individual goals and personality. So, be prepared to make your marriage work.
Disagreement Will Occur
Well, this is not a prophecy of doom. As far as you guys are not brought up in the same house and not wired the same way, you will disagree on some issues. So, know that there will be disagreement but be prepared. Don’t let Satan take charge and use it to destroy your home. Handle the disagreement carefully.
There Will Be Mistakes
Well, irrespective of how long you have been courting before marriage, mistakes will come up. Sometimes you will be sincerely wrong and sometimes it may be an oversight. But it may not be viewed by your partner that way. Own up to your mistakes and be sincerely sorry. Ensure you communicate this as well.
Finances And Resources
This is by far one of the greatest causes of divorce. Finance and resources availability and allocation. This is usually when there is not much in the home. This is why love must be genuine and sincere. It should never be on money or riches. Hard times may come but you need to be focused on the needs. Pick your needs based on priority.
If you will build a great home, you both must have a flat rule to choose home first above personal agenda. There are times your individual interest will coincide with that of the home, learn to uphold your home first. Marriage is never for selfish individuals.
Altars Must Active
In every family, there must be at least three altars, especially in the early years. By the altar, we mean prayer life and it must be active. The husband, wife, and the family altars must be active. As a family, you can’t do much without prayer even as an individual. This is one of the hard truths about marriage that is not explored by many.
You Can’t Change Your Partner
This is one of the problems in marriage. It is not your job to change your partner. Even if your partner is not good enough, just be good enough and pray along until God does His work. This is one of the hard truths about marriage that people don’t want to work with. A lot of what people do to change their partner further irritates their partner. Be careful.